" I tried changing the update staus to hide but I cannot do that -my system tells me I can only uninstall, so no solution yet.'
Uninstall the updates giving you issues, reboot, then configure Windows Update to hide these, so they won't be offered again.
Unless you are having an unknown version of Windows...lol... this method works with millions if not billions of computers.
If you cannot achieve this, then there is something very wrong with your system.
Regards,